My father, Bernhard Herzberg, was always eccentric. Growing up in South Africa in a lower-middle class white suburb, he seemed out of place: suede jacket, black beret, German accent and notoriously left wing. On the few occasions he attended my rugby matches it was excruciating. His interaction with the bowls-playing, apartheid-supporting white parents was invariably combative. But as the years passed, I came to value this otherness more and more; and by the time he died two years ago I had long since learned to cherish it.
His life was dramatic. Born to a wealthy Hanoverian Jewish family, he was a socialist by the age of twelve. One day my grandparents came home to find the cook sitting at the kitchen table with her arms folded and the evening meal unprepared. When questioned, she informed them that young Bernhard (then 12 years old) had instructed her to go on strike because her wages were too low.
This familial conflict was to end tragically in 1933. When my father's twin-sister tried to commit suicide, my grandfather was too ashamed to visit her in hospital. My dad spread the word about what a hypocrite my grandfather was and when he returned one night from the hospital he found that the locks had been changed on the doors and that he had been disinherited. He also tried to warn my grandfather that the Nazis were hell-bent on a world war, but this fell on deaf ears.
My father found sanctuary in South Africa, one of the only countries accepting Jewish refugees at the time. He spent the next fifty-two years there, highly active in the anti-apartheid movement. When he came to join my mother in the UK in 1985 he was already 76 years old. He started a new business and retired at the age of 82.
Still possessing enormous energy, he decided to study. This drive was spurred, in part, by his late father. My father had been forced to leave school at fifteen by my grandfather, who said to him that he would never amount to anything and should choose a simple vocation. Those words had a marked effect on my father and the older he got, the more he quoted them. It reinforced my belief at how important parental input is in the educational process.
From the moment he began to study, he applied himself with the same kind of zeal he always had with anything he undertook. But he did things his own way. Academic guidelines were anathema to him and he would answer questions in the way he chose to and ignore the clearly delineated structural requirements because he quibbled with most of them. No matter how often his friends or I would point out to him that he was putting himself at a severe disadvantage, he persisted.