OUT TO LUNCH
___STEADY_PAYWALL___
As the saying goes, you can choose your friends but you can’t choose your relatives. So when the drunken uncle gets up on the dance floor at his niece’s 21st birthday party as soon as he hears the opening strains of Satisfaction and does his impersonation of Mick Jagger you just have to grin and bear it. And bribe the DJ not to play any more Rolling Stone’s songs.
Drunken uncles are relatively harmless as far as family harmony is concerned. Of greater concern are those family members that develop anti social habits such as stealing, drug dealing, fraud, violence, kiddy-fiddling and so on. It’s bad enough when it remains an embarrassing family secret but when these character failings become public knowledge and the media wild dogs have ripped the carcass apart it must be unbearable for members of the family.
Does Mrs Rolf Harris still meet friends for a morning coffee I wonder? Can close relatives of Markus Jooste still visit their favourite winelands restaurants without having to endure fellow guests whispering to one another behind cupped hands?
The only solution when future survival is at stake is to acknowledge the failings of your relative and publicly disown the errant family member. It’s known as tough love but by doing so you admit that you’ve recognized the problem before it becomes a public embarrassment and taken drastic action. Only by getting rid of the black sheep of the family is it possible for the rest of the family to move forward with head held high.