Let me state upfront that I believe Julius Malema deviates from what three-and-a-half centuries of colonization, apartheid and imperialist control has thought us to be "civilization". And I like it!
The arrival of Jan van Riebeck in 1652 brought with it the concept of civilization, which defined how "civilized people" should think, behave and act. These prescriptions remain a set standard of "desirable" human conduct even beyond the dawn of South Africa's democratic dispensation.
In comes Julius Malema: he shouts and screams when he makes his point; he looks people in the eye and tells them what they would rather not hear. It is no wonder the "civilized liberals" find him rude, unsophisticated and impolite etc.
But that is precisely the problem: we were thought to be polite and civilized even when the oppressors themselves were acting against these very same values. Demanding freedom was a barbaric act, and pleading for it was more acceptable.
Sadly, we were lulled into this "civilized thinking" when we went through the doors of CODESA and "politely begged" the white minority to give us our freedom. Along the process we made compromises; some very good (abandoning the arm struggle), some fair (agreeing to the removal of economic sanctions) and some extremely disastrous (agreeing to a sunset clause on the white minority's general grip on power in the economy and public sector).
Throughout the process, Thabo Mbeki - the ANC lead negotiator in CODESA and probably the best example of a "civilized African" - continued to accede to the National Party's demands, if only to avoid offending them. According to Mbeki's sophisticated and modern but narrow (if not naïve) Sussex logic, the oppressed had to compromise or there would be a civil war. Such was Mbeki's determination not to upset the cart, that he kept insisting that "we had put ourselves in the shoes of the other party".